Personally, I don’t think all Christian Men are being real Christians because the truth is most of them are passive men. Surprised eh? I met this guy who calls himself a Christian because he attends church every Sunday, he reads the bible, he knows some important verses and he is saving himself for his future wife. Those are the characteristics I like about him and I really adore him for that. As I remember I even wrote about Negotiable and Non-Negotiable characteristics that I am looking for my potential husband and almost 99.9% of my Non-Negotiable is him but I had to let him go. Why? Because he said my short hair doesn’t suit me! (LOL)Well, actually it was not a big deal to me even if he says my toes are like alien toes I don’t care. But it is because he is LACK OF:
· Initiative
· Courage
· Patience
He was even trying to manipulate me and because he was a couple of years younger than me, he hates it when I said he was being immature. He even told me that I am not for real because I don’t talk to him first. I believe that I did send him signals for him to know that I was interested and it was by reciprocating. Anywho, I do not need a guy in a suit with binkies.
· Initiative
· Courage
· Patience
He was even trying to manipulate me and because he was a couple of years younger than me, he hates it when I said he was being immature. He even told me that I am not for real because I don’t talk to him first. I believe that I did send him signals for him to know that I was interested and it was by reciprocating. Anywho, I do not need a guy in a suit with binkies.
"It's time to man-up and take the lead in the romance department. He takes the risks. He battles the beast. He pursues her."
~ Drew Dyck ~
Okay, so what are the bases for a man to call himself a Christian? This one author is right when he asked if we have ever heard of a princess in shining armor, she rides a white horse, crosses an ocean, climbs a witch tower, slays a dragon and rescues the man she loves. I laughed when I read this because let's face the truth, no woman would ever dream of that kind of fairy tale. Anyway, for me a real Christian man is NOT AFRAID OF REJECTION. I am not saying that only men have the highest percent to be rejected. You told a girl that you want to pursue her with the goal of eventual marriage and she said NO is the only rejection in life you can get? No it is not! Even in my own experience, I have been rejected for so many times, it is not just because the guys I used to like could not like me but also in some situations like I was rejected in job interviews, I failed my board exam twice (it felt like the whole word rejected me), and so on but I am still ready to take risk because I know the LORD has plans for me, for my life and I would only live once and no one can stop me from falling in love but I am more cautious now. What I mean is if a woman like me could take risks what more a real Godly Man can do? I won’t take a guy who is afraid to get rejected because a true Christian Man for myself is someone who has faith, who has plans, someone who will never give up on me and for our future family, who is very patience to try and to take risk again whatever kind of obstacles and rejections he will get in life, someone who can inspire me not just because he got looks, he is intelligent, this and that but someone who would say to me that “Hey, you are losing track” if I need to, or someone who would remind me of our limitations and boundaries.
I hope boys should man up and have courage to pursue the girl they like. Don’t just sit there and wonder that she doesn't like you. You got to do something to make it happen! :)
I hope boys should man up and have courage to pursue the girl they like. Don’t just sit there and wonder that she doesn't like you. You got to do something to make it happen! :)
"He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord."
~ Proverbs 18:22 ~