I KISSED DATING GOODBYE
"Joshua Harris"
(August 19, 2010)
I was with my friend Bea on a one Saturday afternoon, she visited me and brought a book about dating. We've been talking about the book when I was still in U.A.E. I started reading this book she lends me, entitled "I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris" and she was right that it was not just about between a girl and a boy but also how God guides us in dating. I am planning to buy my own book just like this one. The only other that comes close is "Boy Meets Girl" the sequel and I want to read it. I don't have to read for any review because it's a good book for sure like what also my friend Girlie told me.
The first part of the book is what I feel is the most essential, and it is where Josh lays out his ideas to you. First of all he gives you the Little Relationship Principle:
The joy of intimacy is the reward of commitment.
Then, he goes on to list seven habits of highly defective dating:
1. Dating tends to skip the friendship stage of a relationship
2. Dating often mistakes a physical relationship as love
3. Dating often isolates a couple from other vital relationships
4. Dating can distract young adults from their primary responsibility of preparing for the future.
5. Dating can cause discontentment with God’s gift of singleness
6, Dating can create an artificial environment for evaluating another person’s character.
7. Dating often becomes an end in itself.
Once Josh Harris has listed these, he doesn’t leave you hanging. In the next chapter, he covers five ways to avoid the above seven pitfalls of dating:
1. Every relationship is an opportunity to model Christ’s love.
2. My unmarried years are a gift from God
3. I don’t need to pursue a romantic relationship before I’m ready for marriage
4. I cannot “own” someone outside of marriage
5. I will avoid situations that could compromise the purity of my body or my mind
The first part of the book is what I feel is the most essential, and it is where Josh lays out his ideas to you. First of all he gives you the Little Relationship Principle:
The joy of intimacy is the reward of commitment.
Then, he goes on to list seven habits of highly defective dating:
1. Dating tends to skip the friendship stage of a relationship
2. Dating often mistakes a physical relationship as love
3. Dating often isolates a couple from other vital relationships
4. Dating can distract young adults from their primary responsibility of preparing for the future.
5. Dating can cause discontentment with God’s gift of singleness
6, Dating can create an artificial environment for evaluating another person’s character.
7. Dating often becomes an end in itself.
Once Josh Harris has listed these, he doesn’t leave you hanging. In the next chapter, he covers five ways to avoid the above seven pitfalls of dating:
1. Every relationship is an opportunity to model Christ’s love.
2. My unmarried years are a gift from God
3. I don’t need to pursue a romantic relationship before I’m ready for marriage
4. I cannot “own” someone outside of marriage
5. I will avoid situations that could compromise the purity of my body or my mind
"Choosing to quit the dating game doesn’t mean rejecting friendship with the opposite sex, companionship, romance, or marriage. We can still pursue those things, we just choose to pursue them on God’s terms and in his time. I DON'T NEED TO PURSUE ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP BEFORE I'M READY FOR MARRIAGE."