Negotiable And Non Negotiable
(August 24, 2012)
Negotiable and Non Negotiable. These 2 words have been running inside my head all day. It’s not about business but about what kind of man I want to spend with for the rest of my life. My family and friends have been asking me if what kind of man I like. Some of my friends tell me that I’m too picky; some knows I have my standards. I know some men; the ones I rejected and the ones I dumped. They got rejected and got dumped by me not just for the sake of dumping my goodness. I am not perfect but THERE IS ALWAYS A REASON why I did it. Unfortunately, they didn’t have time to ask me “why”. So I thought they knew why or they already knew but kept denying it. You know men and their so called “ego” can’t solve anything. I am the kind of woman who gives a chance, I totally believe that everyone deserves a second chance but sadly those men or I’d rather say BOYS (immatures), never asked for it. I am only 23 years old, bubbly, goofy, enthusiastic girl but I think my mind is double of my age or more. In other words, I use my brain over my heart. I don’t trust my heart by its own. “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” Jeremiah 17:9 (NIV). We can all choose what kind of person we want to marry in the right time but we don’t have to follow our heart all the time. Your heart can choose but your mind should decide. What I know is that I won't settle for anything less than I deserve.
I have a friend and he really likes this one girl, the girl has bachelor's degree and works in one of the famous hospital in the country while my friend is only a college undergraduate and has no job. He’s courting the girl but she turned him down. It’s obvious why she rejected him. I know that my friend is not ready to settle down and I don't think he's aware of that, he even thinks that she doesn't like him because of their age gap I was like, "HELLOW! She's only a year older than you I don't believe that's the reason. Women want to get married, unluckily she knows her value dude." Money isn't the most important thing but yes it is one of the necessities of the family. Every woman wants to be treated like a princess, how can you be like a princess if you work for your husband and provide for him. Would a girl be with a guy who has fewer balls than she has? I know most of the men think that women like that are materialistic and gold digger. “But if any man does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever." 1 Timothy 5:8. I don’t care if men will call me a gold digger because I know inside me that’s not who I am, I just want a man who has initiative and knows how to be responsible enough for our family. When I think about responsibility, it reminds me of my dad. My dad worked hard for 40 years for me and for my mom, I really adore my dad for that. I have seen how my dad serves mom and I, he treats my mom like a queen and he treats me like a princess. I remember when there was a typhoon 2 months ago; he waited for me in the main road with an umbrella. I don’t have a car so I just commute when I go to work. Before I got off the jeepney he gave me a pair of rain boots to wear and waded in the flood, he really made me feel special that time. I am single, I have my freedom, I have my choice, so why would I waste my time on a man who doesn’t treat me like a princess but just a pauper?
Most women don’t even know their value. They always say, “I can’t leave him because I love him.” Blah! I know it’s hard to forget someone you love. But the question is “Does he love you? How does he show he loves you? Through actions or just through words?” Michelle McKinney Hammond said, “Men classify women, and you need to identify which of the three basic categories you fit in: the freak, the friend, or the forever.” This strikes me to the root of my bangs “OUCH!!!” The problem about us girls we assume too much and expect too much. The problem about men, they give us false hopes. If only we have in-built alarm that rings whenever a guy is just messing with our peaceful mind. So are you the freak? The friend? Or The forever? I’ll say it out loud... I WANT TO BE THE FOREVER ONE!
Let’s go back to Negotiable and Non Negotiable thingy. I decided to list what characteristics I am looking for a man. So here it is...
NEGOTIABLE
☻Creative
☻Dog Lover
☻Talented
☻Tall
☻Cute
☻Average Built
☻Virgin
NON NEGOTIABLE
☻A Believer
(I know only a believer man can understand what I’ve been saying above)
☻Single/Never Been Married
☻Non-Smoker/Non-Alcoholic/Non-Vicious
☻Emotionally Available
☻Faithful
☻Respectful
☻Trustworthy
☻Loving
☻Patient
☻Caring
☻Understanding
☻High Self Control
☻A Provider/Responsible/Generous
☻Funny
☻Initiator/Good Leader
☻Approachable
My standards are too high but I LOVE IT! Because I know this guy is worth waiting for ♥
I have a friend and he really likes this one girl, the girl has bachelor's degree and works in one of the famous hospital in the country while my friend is only a college undergraduate and has no job. He’s courting the girl but she turned him down. It’s obvious why she rejected him. I know that my friend is not ready to settle down and I don't think he's aware of that, he even thinks that she doesn't like him because of their age gap I was like, "HELLOW! She's only a year older than you I don't believe that's the reason. Women want to get married, unluckily she knows her value dude." Money isn't the most important thing but yes it is one of the necessities of the family. Every woman wants to be treated like a princess, how can you be like a princess if you work for your husband and provide for him. Would a girl be with a guy who has fewer balls than she has? I know most of the men think that women like that are materialistic and gold digger. “But if any man does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever." 1 Timothy 5:8. I don’t care if men will call me a gold digger because I know inside me that’s not who I am, I just want a man who has initiative and knows how to be responsible enough for our family. When I think about responsibility, it reminds me of my dad. My dad worked hard for 40 years for me and for my mom, I really adore my dad for that. I have seen how my dad serves mom and I, he treats my mom like a queen and he treats me like a princess. I remember when there was a typhoon 2 months ago; he waited for me in the main road with an umbrella. I don’t have a car so I just commute when I go to work. Before I got off the jeepney he gave me a pair of rain boots to wear and waded in the flood, he really made me feel special that time. I am single, I have my freedom, I have my choice, so why would I waste my time on a man who doesn’t treat me like a princess but just a pauper?
Most women don’t even know their value. They always say, “I can’t leave him because I love him.” Blah! I know it’s hard to forget someone you love. But the question is “Does he love you? How does he show he loves you? Through actions or just through words?” Michelle McKinney Hammond said, “Men classify women, and you need to identify which of the three basic categories you fit in: the freak, the friend, or the forever.” This strikes me to the root of my bangs “OUCH!!!” The problem about us girls we assume too much and expect too much. The problem about men, they give us false hopes. If only we have in-built alarm that rings whenever a guy is just messing with our peaceful mind. So are you the freak? The friend? Or The forever? I’ll say it out loud... I WANT TO BE THE FOREVER ONE!
Let’s go back to Negotiable and Non Negotiable thingy. I decided to list what characteristics I am looking for a man. So here it is...
NEGOTIABLE
☻Creative
☻Dog Lover
☻Talented
☻Tall
☻Cute
☻Average Built
☻Virgin
NON NEGOTIABLE
☻A Believer
(I know only a believer man can understand what I’ve been saying above)
☻Single/Never Been Married
☻Non-Smoker/Non-Alcoholic/Non-Vicious
☻Emotionally Available
☻Faithful
☻Respectful
☻Trustworthy
☻Loving
☻Patient
☻Caring
☻Understanding
☻High Self Control
☻A Provider/Responsible/Generous
☻Funny
☻Initiator/Good Leader
☻Approachable
My standards are too high but I LOVE IT! Because I know this guy is worth waiting for ♥